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A four-step guide to freeing yourself from emotional abuse and thriving
Red flags from The Tinder Swindler to watch out for, from date one
Like many of you, I watched the true-crime documentary The Tinder Swindler this week. Horrifying as this story is - I mean, how is it...
How to break up with an abuser: step 5, recover
How do you recover when you feel broken? How do you shine when you feel withered? In my four-step method to thrive post emotional abuse,...
How to break up with an abuser: step 4, time for support
The 3rd step of breaking up with an abusers is to find support. You need a safe space to share your pain, process it, listen and learn.
Incorrect things your parents may have taught you
There is a film called Dogtooth where the “children” think Frank Sinatra is their grandfather and the word “telephone” means salt shaker....
Stats on stalking in the UK
In my latest post I wrote about why going no contact when you break up with an abuser is essential to heal. I know this all too well, as...
How to break up with an abuser: step 3, no contact
Under normal circumstances there’s nothing wrong with staying in contact with your ex. They were the person closest to you for some time...
How to break up with an abuser: step 2, cut all ties
The second step to break up with an abuser is to think of all the things that tie you together, and cut all the bonds.
How to break up with an abuser: step 1, find your support network
The antidote to an abusive relationship is love. You may be rolling your eyes, but it’s true. When you’re abused, either by a parent, or...
What breaking up with an abuser is like
When I broke up with him, I went for a walk around Hyde Park. It was a grey windy day at the end of May. I looked up at the leaves moving...
10 relationship red flags (external)
If you landed on this page, you probably have some serious doubts about your relationship. You started with hopes and dreams, but now you...
How your upbringing made you an empath
Read what being an empath is like. The way your parents raised you may have been the reason for your increased empathy and weak boundaries.
Are you avoiding love? Avoidance and reversed boundaries
In an ideal world, we should be letting the good in, and the bad out. Filling our lives with people that make us smile and cheerlead us,...
Why our relationships are what matter most to us.
Nourish your relationships like you nourish your skin daily with cream. Like your body with juicy fruits and nutritious meals. Like your...
What chronic abuse looks like, through Britney Spears’ statement.
As many of you, I’m sure, who listened to Britney Spears’ statement, I am shocked. Of course, an investigation is needed to look into the...
Tips for starting couples therapy
In my previous blog post I wrote about the reasons to not go to couples therapy. If you do decide that you want to try couples therapy...
Should you try couples therapy?
Normally, I’m a big advocate of therapy. Therapy is all about humility; it’s about curiosity; it’s about self-love. It’s about admitting...
Stuff ain’t love: no, he’s not spoiling you
The other day, I saw on my Instagram feed a photo of designer products. Very expensive, very fancy, very exclusive. One of these bags...
What is gaslighting and why it happens
The definition of gaslighting is to “manipulate (someone) by psychological means into doubting their own sanity”. I mentioned in my first...
How to recognise an entitled partner
Has your partner’s life taken over yours? Have you become their secretary? Are you the one fixing their problems? Do you have to plan...
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